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This is a safe space for those who have experienced maternal absence, loss, or dysfunction. Here, our story matters. Unmothered Haven was created as a refuge where we can break the silence, share our truths, and begin the healing journey together.
The impact of being “unmothered” doesn’t end in childhood — it often follows us into adulthood. It can show up as negative self-talk, constant self-doubt, or difficulty regulating emotions. Some of us become perfectionists or overachievers, trying to prove our worth. Others fall into patterns of people-pleasing, fearing rejection or abandonment, or struggling to set boundaries.
These traits often affect our relationships, making it hard to feel secure, build trust, or believe we are truly loved. They can also show up in the way we parent, as we strive to give our children what we never received.
These patterns are not who you are — they are echoes of what you’ve been through.
Through personal reflections, tools for growth, and honest conversations, this community is dedicated to helping you reclaim your voice, rebuild your spirit, and rediscover who you truly are.

During my marriage, we decided to take a parenting class to help manage our son. In case you are new to my blog, my son was diagnosed with ADHD and a Mood Disorder at 5yrs old. Before he reached elementary school he had already been kicked out of six (6) pre-schools. I have an immense…

This is short….but maybe fitting as we start our morning! A few days ago, I stumbled on a clip from Sex in the City, showing character Samantha Jones in action. Confidence, poise and most certainly direct. It got me thinking…I could use a little Samantha Jones right now. Not allot but just enough to get…

The job market today is like watching a season of The Bachelor. If you are unemployed and have been struggling to find a role you may understand why I compare the rose ceremony with today’s job market. You can have stellar interviews, provide immpeccible references and still not receive an offer or “rose”. And if…

I didn’t know what Parallel Parenting was until my therapist recommended “The Parallel Parenting Solution, Eliminate Conflict with Your Ex, Create the Life You Want” by Carl Knickerbocker, JD. My divorce was still new and fresh like a wall of smelly paint. And I was desperately trying to find help, ideally, a roadmap to help…

Its taken me some time to formulate my thoughts for this post. Yesterday, I made the decision to initiate an “income withholding order”. My ex is nearing 3 months behind in child support payments. For 2 years now, I’ve let it slide. Occasionally I would sheepishly ask, afraid to confront him and eventually move on.…

Most of us are sleep walking through our adult lives, repeating patterns of abusive behavior. Whether it’s intentional or unintentional, self inflicted or towards others, we’re on auto-pilot unaware of what we do. This is pretty easy to do especially when we’ve had a very good teacher… Mother. What is “Unmothered”? Google defines “Unmothered” as…